3 Practical Steps to Creating Miracles

The Passion Test

““I want for you what you want for you.””

When I heard Byron Katie use the phrase above for the first time it went deep into my heart. While people tell me all the time I’m one of the most loving people they know, I’m all too aware that I’m often more concerned about my own needs than others. Of course, so is just about everyone else on the planet.

A big shift happened in me some years ago when I began to live Katie’s simple phrase. Letting go of my own agenda and needs, I started truly wanting those closest to me to have what they wanted for themselves.

That’s when the world turned upside down. For some inexplicable reason, I started getting more of what I wanted. Go figure!

So today, let me share three simple steps you can take to unlock the magic and power of love in your own life . . . and have more of what you really want at the same time!



Step 1 – Unravel Those Old Beliefs

All of us have so many concepts that drive our lives and no matter how conscious you may be, I guarantee you there are a bunch of those limiting beliefs you don’t even realize you have. So, start looking for them.

  • Where do you judge others?
  • What parts of your relationships do you struggle with?
  • Who drives you crazy?
  • Who has done something completely unforgivable?

Questions like these will help you discover the areas of your life where false concepts are making you miserable.

Here’s your test: If there is any part of your relationships that has a charge for you, or is causing you unhappiness, then there are some concepts you’re holding on to in that area that give rise to that pain. These are the areas to investigate.

Start writing down all the thoughts you can think of that come up when you think about those parts of your life. Particularly thoughts about what someone else should or shouldn’t do.

They could sound like this:

  • He should listen to me when I’m talking.
  • She shouldn’t be so emotional.
  • He betrayed me.
  • She doesn’t understand me.
  • He abandoned me.
  • She is frigid.
  • He shouldn’t work so much.
  • She should leave me alone.

Now go to TheWork.com, click on “Do the Work” and follow the directions. Call the helpline and allow a volunteer to help you go through the simple process of “The Work of Byron Katie” to unravel these thoughts that cause pain and unhappiness.

Step 2 – Infuse Your Awareness with Love

You don’t have to finish Step 1 to go on to this one. And this one’s really fun. It’s find ways to steep yourself in love. Making this easier is why I created “21 Meditations on Love” program–just for you!

These are 21 short meditations reflecting on the phrase, “I want for you what you want for you.” Why would I want that? What happens when I live by that credo? How do I feel when I treat those I love most this way?

You probably know that it takes 21 days to establish a new habit. So this program is designed to culture in you the habit of living your life based on unconditional love. Here’s a ritual you can start right now. It takes just 10 minutes a day and in a few weeks, you’ll discover the world looks very different. Your awareness has begun to be drenched in the power of love as “I want for you what you want for you” has become a mantra that is always with you.

Of course, there are other things you can do as well.

When you’re with those you love and you notice yourself wanting something else for them, than what they want for them, ask yourself, “What would happen if I let them have what they want for themselves?” If what they want won’t endanger them, or harm someone else, experiment with letting them have what they want, even if it makes no sense to you. See what happens.

Make a ritual of listening to music that opens your heart. If you want to really get into it, light some incense, a candle, get some fresh flowers, have photos around of people you love, and treat yourself like you love you. Activating the senses in this way and taking time daily to put attention on love will result in love growing in your life. As you know, “What you put your attention on grows stronger.”

Step 3 – Put Love Into Action

So now that you’ve unraveled your limiting beliefs and infused your awareness with love, you are ready to bring love into every part of your life. In the Passion Test we said, “Action Engages Attention.” Actions focus your attention on the moment. When you begin to consciously choose the actions you are taking in life, then you begin to create the kind of life you were meant to live.

Guess what? There will always be lots of things that don’t work out the way you would like them to. There will always be people who don’t behave the way you would like them to.

Your opportunity now is to open your heart to love even the uncomfortable moments in life. That doesn’t mean pretending everything is wonderful when it’s not. It means giving yourself permission to respond authentically in the moment, to go through whatever you have to go through emotionally, and then use the Work or whatever other tools that are available to you to return to love.

Thanks so much for being part of our world.

With love


Janet Bray Attwood

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