Unity and Relationships

Posted on September 15, 2008 by Chris Attwood

What are the implications of unity for the relationships in my life?

The experience of unity is self-validating. It doesn't need to be affirmed by anyone or anything, because, guess what? From the perspective of unity, there IS nothing else.

So what does it mean when we look for validation? Does that mean we are not experiencing unity?

First of all, the only experience that is truly real, is unity. We can't step out of it, we can't lose it. We can only forget it's reality in the forest of our thoughts.

When I look for validation from what appears to be someone else, I am asking myself to validate a thought. Thoughts by definition reflect the appearance of separation and therefore a thought can never be validated. However, the act of asking is showing me a part of myself that doubts the truth of my own experience.

The people in my life are the expressions of the parts of my own nature that are here to reflect to me my own inner workings. Who I see, what they say to me or are telling me is what I tell myself. In some cases, I may have hidden these inner workings so thorougly that they may be unrecognizable to me.

Knowing this, there is no "sub-conscious." All parts of me are always clearly visible and available by seeing the world in which I appear to live. This world is nothing but the creation of my own awareness, my own consciousness.

Those relationships which are closest to me are the parts of me that are leading me to the experiences most necessary, right now, to undo the patterns which keep me immersed in the illusion of separateness or which allow me to most fully enjoy the experience of my innermost nature. The rest of what appears to be the world provides a context, a backdrop that allows the story of life to seem real, and therefore interesting.

Relationships express my relationship with myself. Therefore there is no one to blame. There is no one to hurt other than myself. There is no one to love, other than myself. And this "myself" encompasses all of what I call the world and includes every "person" who appears to be part of my life.

Relationships exist to grow in the love of every aspect of my being, which means to grow in love of every part of life.

3 Comments     Comments

Alan Hickman, Santa Fe NM , March 14, 2010 at 8:38 PM | Reply Hi Chris - What a perfect conversation. I too watch my two GRANDsons grow and transform. Many times they reflect to me those parts of myself that I have held as separate and they are leading me to TRANSFORM - heal my separation from God. With Love and GRATITUDE, Alan Hickman http://www.beeingattraction.com

Lorraine Riordan, New Jersey , April 1, 2009 at 8:19 AM | Reply Hey Chris As I stumble, but never really, I understand I am only directed to where I need to be, so there really was no stumbling at all. Unity and relationships. It is only recently I have started to ponder the notion that I am truly one with everyone I love. that God has put these people in my life for me to renewed and to rememeber who I am, where I am and that weare going through it together. There are moments in my relationship with Sam that I underastand we are one positive and loving energy adding to the Universe. The thought and knowing of that is such a beautiful concept that somehow, me loving someone adds to theexerpeince of the universe. WOW! pretty powerful.... Sometimes when I am mediating and praying I find that Sam comes into the vision I have when I talk with God. It is then that I really get excited knowing that together we are here to create and be in unity with the rest of the world. While there is so much more to learn I am deligfhted that God has allowed me the opportunity to come to an awesness in my middle years. Where I need to find a new awakening is in the spititual reconcilliation with my teenage daughter. She is 18 now and in her growing up years as a teenager there was no oneness. There was no unity which is why, for me the realtionship was not just frustrating but so complicated and overwhelming. I realize that it was always mom vs daughter, which again is wy it never worked and we were at each other. Now that she is in college and I have awoken as a peron ready to see who I really am I am sometimes sadened by the expereince but understand it was where I was suppose to be. As I dabble now at changing my exerpeireince and separteness with her I find there are magical times when I get it right and when I get it wrong. A big ouch. My daughter and I are one when I allow it and that is not always easy. But I pray, mediate and listen to the wise words of so mnay who have taught and brought me to this stage of me enlightenment. It is such a ool thing and the jounrey is marvelous. So as I put it out there I ask for support for being in oneness with my daughter and all who enter my life.

Dusty Niles, Bend, Or , September 15, 2008 at 4:10 PM | Reply right on, Chris...... This for me reinforces that every moment is in fact a gift. It seems as if the relationships we have are here to lead us towards our inner most nature, then the communication we have with others at all times is in fact a gift. When our communication with others is treated as a divine gift we can not help but provide those that we are communicating with some form of energy they can use in their own journey.